Exaholism - 8 Simple Methods To Getting Over Your Ex

posted by Khalidah

It's no secret that breakups are among the most agonizing adjustments that we experience in life.  The pain of being apart from someone you have loved and still love, whom you shared your heart, dreams and life with can be emotionally traumatic.  Still, a breakup can be a great opportunity for us to heal, if we approach them as such; but often people remain stuck on their ex and can't seem to move past it.  They find themselves caught in a gloomy spiral of wanting to figure out what went wrong, feeling angry at themselves or at their ex and stuck in a depressed or anxious state of mind.

Some of us have or will go through the ups and downs of a serious breakup but it does not have to be consumed with moments of sadness and loneliness. Here are some tips to help you move on:

1. Cut off all communication - PERIOD (that includes lurking around Facebook, Twitter and Instagram)

2. Define your real intentions. Are you trying to move past the breakup, or are you hoping to get back with your ex? You won't move on until you've accepted that the relationship is over.

3. In due time, it is vital to move past the pain and go on with your life and love.  Otherwise, you are giving away your power to the people who hurt you.

4. Sometimes the relationship you need to rescue is the one with yourself. Moving past a breakup is about you, not your ex. Collect yourself and start blossoming again.

5. Thinking about just being friends should not be an option right nowif ever.

6. Sometimes you can't get over being hurt until you know you've been heard.  Give yourself permission to express your anger and sadness.

7. Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which one should wallow in. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing.

8. Learn to trust again. Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you know there's a risk. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest. You can go through life skeptical, or loving and laughing.

Have you ever dealt with with a diffucult breakup?  Post your comments below and let's keep the conversation going!

~Love & Light

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